Desire is the highest leverage source of life force energy. Let it enliven every part of your life.
Our 4-week cohort runs March 11th - April 5th, 2024. Apply to secure your spot.
Registration for the spring cohort is currently closed. Join the waitlist for the fall cohort.
★★★★★
“An embodied exploration of desire, skillfully guided, that creates the conditions for powerful and unexpected insights. I feel more in my body and greater curiosity around desire.”
Jonny Miller Founder of Nervous System Mastery
🌟 What Do You Want?
It’s a seemingly simple question. But until we truly master our relationship to that question, we will never find the deep sense of fulfillment that our souls have been longing for all our lives.
Without knowing what we truly want, it doesn’t matter how much time and energy we put into what we do.
It doesn’t matter how effective we are. It doesn’t matter how much money we make or how many promotions we get. It doesn’t matter how much personal development or learning we do. It doesn’t even matter how much intimacy or love or sex we have in our relationships.
Until we cultivate a deep connection with our desire, we won’t be moving in the direction that’s most aligned with what makes us come truly alive.
And when we’re not in alignment, none of those accomplishments will truly be able to quench our thirst or touch the innermost part of us that hungers for more.
Here’s the good news: relating to your desires is not only a learnable skill, but something you can master.
When you master your relationship to desire, you master your ability to create the life your soul yearns for.
Desire is the most powerful source of life force energy — it drives massive life change and transformation.
Desire liberates us. Desire transforms us. Desire evolves us. Desire empowers us. Desire fuels us. Desire enlivens us. Desire moves us.
When we come into right relationship with our desire, it becomes the most powerful ally we can have to direct our life.
Mastering our relationship to desire is the single, highest-leverage skill we can develop toward creating and living the life we truly want.
Desire is the compass that our souls use to point us to our most aligned life.
★★★★★
“The experience was really powerful. I loved how somatic and re-patterning it was. It was really helpful to hear you describe the stuck ping pong, which is exactly what I’ve experienced for years. So then to hold both the fear and the desire and let the desire grow and grow really shifted something.”
Emily Letts Entrepreneur and Digital Marketer
★★★★★
“The experience created clarity. Like looking at another axis that I wasn’t able to see before.”
Andrew Silver Senior Art Director
Unfortunately, many of us are disconnected from what we truly want in life.
We’re weighed down by layers of societal conditioning telling us what we should want — the relationship that should make us happy, the career that should fulfill us.
We’ve hidden our desires even from ourselves — scared of what it would mean if we allowed ourselves to actually feel them.
I know because I’m intimately familiar with this — it’s where I was five years ago.
By external measures, I’d climbed the mountain of success — worked at a startup acquired by Salesforce for over half a billion dollars, self-published a bestselling book, and even founded a successful tech leadership company.
But at home, I remember sitting on my couch, head buried in my hands, married and feeling alone and helpless in a 17-year-long sexless relationship where I no longer felt met.
Deep down, I felt trapped — a sad emptiness and despair ate away at me inside.
It’s taken me a long while to understand how I’d gotten so lost.
I’d felt too weighed down by shame and hopelessness to connect with my true desires.
I wanted so much more for my life.
To feel nourished in a thriving romantic relationship, where I was deeply met and intimately understood, where my sex life ignited passion and aliveness to fuel other areas of life. To be doing work and serving the world in a way that lit my heart and soul on fire. To be living the epic and fulfilling life that I wanted — not what society told me I should want.
The past seven years have been a deeply personal journey to take apart the life I had — and I’m proud to have rebuilt it from the ground up into something that I truly love and want.
I’ve had the privilege of investing $300K+ on the art and science of personal transformation.
I’ve worked with 20+ master coaches around the world — spanning the worlds of leadership, tantra, sexuality, emotional resolution, neuro-linguistic programming, awakened partnership, spirituality, plant medicine, and more.
It’s a luxury I don’t take for granted. And throughout my journey, I’ve always felt called to one day distill everything I’ve learned into simple, powerful, yet accessible frameworks that others can use.
This course to connect us with our core desires is the culmination of all that experience. And I’m excited to share it with you.
★★★★★
“It was beautiful to come back into the body and remember what desire feels like there. I loved the deepening questions practice to clarify what I’m really after. I felt liberated from the egoic pull of the initial desire and more openness to it happening.”
Kelly Wilde Entrepreneur
⛰️ What You’ll Learn
Create your own epic and fulfilling life — whatever that looks like for you.
You’re in the right place if you feel your soul yearning for deeper meaning and purpose in life – whether in your work, in your intimate relationship, in your community, or elsewhere.
You may have achieved success in life, financial or otherwise, and yet still unfulfilled — you know you were born for more.
You want to access to significantly more energy, aliveness, and possibility in your life — and you’re wanting some powerful support and guidance in getting there.
This course is for you.
Here’s what you’ll learn in the course:
- Master how to move through stuckness, second-guessing, and indecision — and how to make powerful decisions with clarity that honor where you are and what you want.
- Expand your nervous system’s capacity to navigate fear and tension in your emotional experience — so that you can create the reality you truly want.
- Experience more aliveness and energy — and cultivate the self-awareness of where the highest-leverage sources of energy are trapped in your life and waiting to be liberated.
- Integrate daily somatic practices that cultivate more peace and enjoyment in life — so that you can be connected to your desires in every moment.
- Feel a new sense of possibility and fulfillment in your life — as you fully own your core desires.
- Recalibrate where to invest your energy to fulfill your truest, core desires — and reduce wasted energy from following surface-level desires that distract you from your truth.
- Develop radical honesty with yourself, with support from a community of practitioners — so that you can discover the vulnerable desires that would create true fulfillment in your life.
- Identify and transform the limiting beliefs and thought forms telling you that you can’t have what you want — so that you can become an empowered creator of your own reality.
- Develop an intimate connection with desire as your inner compass — so that you point yourself toward the life, work, and relationships you truly want.
- Build a foundation of safety and secure attachment with yourself — and feel grounded and at home in expressing your desires, even when they’re scary.
- Reduce your graspiness and attachment to outcomes — so that you can live with open receptivity to your desires being met.
- Increase your capacity to create and experience joy in your life, work, and relationships — so that you can break through upper limits and stabilize higher levels of joy in your life without collapse.
- Refine the art of how to express your desires in a way that creates understanding and connection — and that increases the chances of the desire being met.
- Own your truth and stand powerfully in it — amidst the fire of resistance and no matter how others might react.
★★★★★
“I can use the somatic tool you taught anytime I’m stuck in lack, in fear of abandonment, or in freeze, especially in my business. The desire supports our capacity to be with the fear.”
Kristen Masi Founder & CEO of KM Astrology
★★★★★
“The experience supported me in going underneath the story I tend to focus on, and get deeper into my true, core needs.”
Kelly Kessen Acupuncturist and Functional Medicine Practitioner
📚 Course Curriculum
This is a highly experiential and practical course. Every piece of theory will be grounded in exercises, experimentation, and practice, so that you leave the course feeling the material deeply integrated into your life.
Week 1: Connect with Your Core Desire in Every Moment
- The WHY of desire: Develop an empowering frame for why desire matters so deeply in liberating your life force energy.
- 5 Fundamental Shifts: The five shifts that we’re looking to make in our relationship to desire in this course.
- Somatics of Desire: Develop clear awareness in your body of how to tap into the energy and power of pure desire — so that you can unblock emotional obstacles.
- Desires v. Shoulds: Learn the somatic difference between desires and “shoulds” in the body, and develop an attuned ability to notice when “shoulds” show up in day-to-day life.
- Mapping Your Shoulds: Develop a clear picture of where obligation and “shoulds” drive different areas of your life.
- Desire as Pathway to Connection: Understand how desire is fundamentally relational and how to leverage that awareness to get what we want.
- Head, Heart, Gut, and Sex Centers: Connect with the intelligence and desires of different centers in your body.
Week 2: Rise Through Emotional Tension
- Expanding Capacity: Learn how to expand your capacity to hold desire somatically in the body without collapsing into fear, doubt, guilt, or shame.
- Emotional Theory: Understand a fundamental neuro-somatic model of how emotions show up as sensations in the body and how to skillfully work with them.
- Wisdom of Emotions: See how every emotion points us directly to an important desire underneath.
- Emotional Resolution: Master a simple but powerful neuroscience backed practice to resolve traumas, triggers, and stuckness in the body, to clear the path to desire.
- Desire versus Fear: Learn how to hold fear in the body without collapsing your desire.
- Surrogate Desires versus Core Desires: Learn to find the deeper, core desire behind any desire — to maximize your sense of fulfillment in life.
Week 3: Reprogramming Limiting Beliefs
- Beliefs as Strategies: Understand how beliefs get formed to help us navigate the world, how they relate to our thoughts and our emotions, and how they get changed.
- Childhood Imprints: Get a grounded understanding of how core beliefs get imprinted from traumas during childhood, and what’s required to change them on on a core level.
- Secure Attachment: The path of owning your desire is creating secure attachment with yourself.
- Limiting Belief Mapping: Map out your core limiting belief and directly see what’s holding you back in different areas of your life.
- Transform Your Core Limiting Belief: Experience a shift in your core limiting belief to a more empowering belief.
- Inner Child Work: Build a connection with your inner child to shift beliefs around you being able to have what you want.
Week 4: The Art of Naming and Expressing Desire
- Desired State: Understand the why behind any given desire by building awareness on what state a given desire would get you.
- Creating Connection through Desire: Learn how to express desire in a way that creates understanding and connection and makes you feel less alone.
- The Cost of Attachment: Learn how attachment creates suffering and also makes it less likely to have your desire met.
- Letting Go of Attachment: Learn techniques to let go of attachment to outcome so that you can manifest desires from openness and receptivity.
- Being versus Doing: Feel the difference between being in your desired state versus doing something to get your desired state, and how that impacts your ability to create a desired outcome.
📅 Course Logistics
The course cohort runs March 11th - April 5th, 2024.
Every week, we’ll have:
- ~1 hour of core content, available via podcast format and text, for you to consume anytime during the week.
- Solo practice and experiments, for you to deepen and integrate the week’s material.
- 1 hour of partner practice, with another student matched with you from the course, scheduled at a time convenient for both of you.
- 90-minute live, experiential group calls on Zoom every Thursday at 9:30 - 11am PT. There will be an additional Welcome Kickoff call on Monday, March 11th at 9:30 - 11am PT. Attendance is highly recommended. Calls will be recorded. The dates for the calls are:
- Monday, March 11th
- Thursday, March 14th
- Thursday, March 21st
- Thursday, March 28th
- Thursday, April 4th
- Engagement with the online community throughout the week. Optional, but recommended if you have time.
Minimum time commitment will be 4-5 hours per week. The more time you invest into the practices and the community, the more you’ll get out of the program.
🎁 Packages
$997
The core 4-week embodied cohort experience.
Features
📖 4 weeks of guided curriculum
⛰️ 4 live 90-minute group calls with Edmond and Katara
👥 A dedicated partner
🧘 Daily solo practices for integration
🧑🤝🧑 Partner exercises
🌍 Lifetime access to online community
$1997
The core experience plus an additional weekly deep dive with Edmond and Katara during the course.
Features
🚀 Everything in Essential plan
⚡️ 4 additional weekly 60-minute deep dives in a small group (max 4-6 people) with Edmond and Katara
🔥 Hot seat coaching
Scholarships: We have a handful of scholarships available for those in financial need. Please indicate on your application if you’d like to be considered.
🎓 Meet Your Instructors
You’ll be guided on this journey by two seasoned coaches and facilitators.
Hi! I’m Edmond Lau.
I live, breathe, and teach the art and science of personal transformation.
In 2019, I’d climbed the mountain of career success — only to hit rock bottom in feeling trapped in a 17-year-long sexless relationship. Leaving my marriage and owning what I truly wanted — in life, work, relationships, and sex, put me on a rocket-ship trajectory that has forever changed my life.
In a previous life, I worked at as an early engineer at multiple Silicon Valley startups — including Quip, which got acquired by Salesforce. I built a successful online brand and audience around The Effective Engineer and self-published a bestselling book that's generated over $500k in revenue. I also founded a tech leadership company and coached founders, VP’s, managers, and other engineering leaders.
Hi! I’m Katara Uychaco.
I live in devotion to what I call Epic Love — Love, Freedom, and Empowerment expressed as one evolutionary force for healing, transformation, and awakening.
With two degrees in engineering and 15 years working in Silicon Valley as an engineer, people manager, and leadership coach at major tech companies — including GitHub, which got acquired by Microsoft. I’ve honed my sharp analytical mind to develop emotional and relational tools and frameworks to bring about the most effective transformations.
I delight in guiding journeys of self-discovery and reclaiming life force, helping people uncover their hidden potential and embrace their inherent divinity, all while harnessing the epic powers of love and eros.
Together, we’ve run 50+ workshops, programs, and multi-day retreats. Previous students have included entrepreneurs, consultants, world leaders, course creators, and people from well-known companies including Google, Facebook, Twitter, Asana, Dropbox, Stripe, Coinbase.
We’ve been trained in multiple different modalities that shape our work, including:
❓Frequently Asked Questions
Have other questions? Reach out, and we’ll be happy to help.
Do I need to attend the live Zoom calls?
While the live calls are recorded, they will be very experiential and practice-oriented. It’s highly encouraged for you to attend the calls to get the most out of the program.
What is the refund policy?
Because we’re capping registration for our inaugural cohort, we’re only wanting participants who are deeply committed to their own personal transformation journey. The registration fee is non-refundable.
🎉 What Past Students Are Saying About Our Work
★★★★★
“Katara and Edmond created a great, safe space to reflect. I’m not a fan of tension and normally try to avoid it. They were warm and welcoming, which in turn made it easy to engage with them and other participants. I would highly recommend their workshop.”
Eric Rosado Senior Product Manager at GitHub
★★★★★
“This workshop helped remind me of tools I already had for dealing with tense moments — taking a pause to honor the moment, getting curious, and being authentic about what my fears, goals, and dreams are.”
Amy Ashida Director at GSA’s Technology Transformation Services
★★★★★
“This training really hit a sweet spot — the frameworks shared with us were memorable, feasible, and useful. It shifted the way I think about moments of tension from something to be avoided to something to draw information from.”
Julia Lindpaintner Design Supervisor at 18F
★★★★★
“Edmond and Katara make a fun and deeply insightful pair, and showed me a new way that the person I am can be a powerful asset to the engineer I want to show up as.”
John Neuhaus Software Engineer at Collective Data
